LoveFlutter's Paper Bag Speed Dating Event in NYC

It has been a couple of weeks since the paper bag event. I’ve done some more digging around the internet and there’s a ton of articles (to no one’s surprise) about the event. I read these articles written by female participants with disgust. The guys at the event had already figured it out: 90% of the female participants were from the media. I stupidly didn’t realize it until L told me after the event. Some of these articles written by these women really pissed me off. Each of them say they went with an open mind but the way they write their interactions with the guys make their claims really phony. In fact, most of them treated the guys like they're inferior. Since they were there for the story, not to really bond with anyone, they were in interview mode. I felt like I wasted my time giving these people a chance when they judged us within 2 minutes and based on what? Most of the conversation sucked because the conversations were directed by what we put on our bags. The problem was that the women were bland and didn’t have anything interesting to say. When they took control of the conversation, it went to boring and dry places. And since most of them were interested in what we did for a living, where we lived, we didn’t even get to ask them what they did. Oh and they were brutally honest in their articles. One woman even said they felt bad after a while and started lying about their true occupation (news writer). What a complete joke. The guys there were all decent guys from what I could see. We put creativity and thought into our designs. It’s a joke how we were there to actually meet people when the other half of the participants were there to ridicule us. It’s no wonder these women are still single. More than half of the women left immediately after the de-bagging. They didn’t even stay to meet the guys because they didn’t come here to meet people. All of them were there for the scoop. You know what the real story for the event was? Female participants were all reporters looking for an article while all the male participants were there for finding someone. Maybe I'm a little bit bitter because the event was advertised to have a higher female to male ratio, maybe I'm mad because I paid $25 and didn't really get anything from it, but I think it's the fact that the guys got played that really annoyed me.

The video below (which is not me, but you can see a cameo of me) describes perfectly what went wrong with the event.

Masters of Love: An Article about Relationships

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/

I love this article. They make a lot of valid points on what couples should do to build trust and foster a long lasting meaningful relationship. The article is a very interesting read but the summary is this: kindness and generosity fosters a lasting relationship.